I suppose what really bothers me is now every time I do something that I consider to be either nice or polite to a woman, I wonder if I'm coming across wrong, and if I should do something mean or spiteful to her just to level the playing field.
I don't think you have to worry. It's not like you're holding doors or whatever because you think doing so entitles you to sex - you're doing it to be polite and civilised. If a woman chooses to perceive an ulterior motive where there is none, there's nothing you can do about that. And if she then chooses to have nothing more to do with you because of her own paranoia, frankly it's her loss.
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Not at all, Dan; I see where you're coming from.
I suppose what really bothers me is now every time I do something that I consider to be either nice or polite to a woman, I wonder if I'm coming across wrong, and if I should do something mean or spiteful to her just to level the playing field.
I don't think you have to worry. It's not like you're holding doors or whatever because you think doing so entitles you to sex - you're doing it to be polite and civilised. If a woman chooses to perceive an ulterior motive where there is none, there's nothing you can do about that. And if she then chooses to have nothing more to do with you because of her own paranoia, frankly it's her loss.