IMHO: Your observations were always there and kept somewhat separate in perspective. However, recent events triggered frustrating dissatisfaction to become highly aggravating. As such, 'the colours are bleeding over'. That's not to say I don't have those thoughts with gaming, whether it's Diablo, TitanQuest, Forgotten realms series, etc. But when I find myself being hounded by that train of thought (which is rare), I figure it's non-gaming stuff. Or that I need something new (and maybe better/different) to play with. Or that I didn't like decisions made in the game, which I am merely participating within limitations set by others. The roots can be left alone but in the meantime, will manifest itself. Different forms but same base principles. YMMV.

I don't know what's the range you're into, so it's kinda hard to rec anything (plus my knowledge is limited to older games). Have you tried Heroes of Ardania?